Thursday, November 14, 2013

One of the Boys ?

When I was growing up, I never had friends who were boys.  I just wasn't that kind of girl - in fact, I never had a good, close male friend until I was in my twenties.

I'd like something different for Beezus and Ramona and I'd like them to have friends that are boys.  I also have this theory that girls who have boys as friends (or brothers) are less likely to be boy crazy as tweens and teens, since boys aren't mysterious to them.  It's a theory I made up, but I think it makes sense.

Anyway, we've had a couple playdates with boys here in Colorado and with one exception it's a bit awkward to see Beezus and Ramona try to play with them since they aren't quite sure what to do, and the boys aren't quite as keen on making up dance routines and playing dress up.

For this reason and a couple others, I'm contemplating getting a video game system after Christmas.  It's a slippery slope and I've resisted it for a long time because I don't want the girls to have more screen time.  But on the days that it's below 40, I like the idea of having an indoor play option.  However, I have no idea where to start with these things, although I know that it needs to be something that allows 4 players.

Do you have a video game system ? Did you have friends of the other gender as a child ?


Maud said...

My best-friend-up-the-road was a boy until we were both about ten, when coincidentally he moved a little further away. I still saw him now and then - he lived close to my granny - but it petered out and by the time we were hitting adolescence we were strangers. I literally didn't know a single boy from then until I went to college, thanks to the Irish single-sex educational system. So boys were, again, a totally alien species to me and it took a while to figure out how to relate to them.

I wish I had had any boy friends, or even acquaintances, in those years. I think you can't push friendships; they'll just happen where they do, so long as you remain open to them.

V said...

Benjie subscribes to a similar theory--he thinks kids who grow up in a single-gender school do get messed up in the head when they get to adolescence because they don't see the other gender on a regular, everyday, ordinary way.

I'd suggest a Wii--and you can get them at a good price 2nd hand!

Unknown said...

We don't have a gaming console, but Bird asked for one for his most recent birthday, and in the process of deciding if we were going to honor that request, I checked in with people who know about that stuff.

Given his age and interests, they suggested the Wii U, and some Lego Star Wars games. Maybe check out the video game recommendations at A Mighty Girl ( and Common Sense Media ( and see if there are things you'd approve of.

I agree with Maud that you can't force friendship, but you can facilitate it a bit.

Aimee @ Smiling Mama said...

My two best friends were boys until their family moved away in 4th grade. Then I didn't have a good male friend again until my 20s. Seems like all the gym activities and rock climbing might help facilitate male friends also. :)

Ryaanne said...

I also suggest the Wi. It really does incorporate movement and exercise. Ben and I just talked about getting one the other day. Not 100% sold yet.

Janel said...

I was the only girl in the neighborhood so I played a lot of superheroes (I always got to be Wonder Woman) and also played a lot of "doctor". Unfortunately it didn't make me less boy crazy :(

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