Tuesday, April 2, 2013

I'm moving out

The past few months have felt like a whirlwind at the Quimby household - Beezus' First Communion, my breast biopsy, the passing of my mother-in-law, the community based consignment sale that I run.

Amidst all of that, I've been keeping another secret.

We are moving.  Not defecting from Prince George's County to Howard County or Charles County as one family seems to do each year from our neighborhood, but really moving.  To Denver. In Colorado.


I've lived in the DC area since I was 18 years old.  I moved here a few days before my 18th birthday to come to college and other than going home for that first summer after freshman year, I've never left.

After I met Mr. Quimby and we married, we made our life here.  In the past few years, we've come close to moving two other times, but the job opportunities didn't pan out.

Which brings us to today, and to this move, and to this opportunity for Mr. Quimby's current job to be in a different place that will result in a shorter and easier travel schedule for him.  (I'll be asking my boss today if I can telework.)   We are trying to sell our house ourselves as a "For Sale By Owner" for a few weeks before we turn it over to a real estate agent.  After one message to various listservs in the area, I already have three people waiting to view it next weekend !  Mr. Quimby has obsessively researched the comps in our area and determined an asking price.

We are about to embark on an adventure together, just the 4 of us.

I've also been obsessively researching where we should live.  I've found the Atriums in the Denver area for the girls and I've cross-referenced high school graduation rates with access to trails with proximity to walking trails and libraries.  The Denver area has a reputation for conservative/traditional Catholicism, so I am still searching for the Catholic church that will be truly Catholic and will still be a good "fit" for our family and the guitar playing, hand-holding Masses that I love.  I feel like I've got a good handle on the area where we want to live. The neighborhoods look different there, in the far flung suburbs of Denver where we are looking.  Yards are smaller, houses are newer, the major streets are all straight and are laid out in a grid pattern.

It looks nothing like the historic Mayberry-esque town where we've made our home for the past 9.5 years.


I know this will be hard - so very hard.  Nothing will ever be able to replace the Mother's Group that I helped form when Beezus was an infant.  The "Milk Moms" have been my ever present companions on this path of mothering - it's difficult to conceive of mothering without them.

I have dear girlfriends from college who live here and I've made some meaningful friendships with a small handful of women in my neighborhood.   I have people whom I really care for in my proverbial village.

I am leaving my sister, who also moved here at 18 from Alabama.  Can't really think about that, though.  It's too painful.

So many people have said to me "I can never imagine doing that.  Just moving someplace."  I understand their sentiment and would respond with my usual "different families do different things."  It is difficult to conceive of such a notion, but for us it seems reasonable.  In the long run, we believe that this will be a good choice for our family.

In the long run.


Aimee @ Smiling Mama said...

I am SO excited for you and your family!! I'm also grateful that I got to meet you IRL before your move so it will be easier for us to keep in touch long-distance. Good luck finding that perfect neighborhood!

Maud said...

Oh wow! If this had gone up yesterday I would have assumed it was an April Fool. This is huge news!

I know you'll miss living here (and we'll miss you terribly) but I know a lot of people who love love love Denver. It will be an amazing opportunity for all of you.

Maud said...

(I like your new comments, too!)

Anonymous said...

It's going to be terrible for me but great for you. I think you will love it. You'll miss us and your sister and other friends, but I think you'll be happy there.

But I will miss you!!

- H.

Maud said...

I think we should definitely try to arrange a PG County blogger meetup before you go!

Leticia- Tech Savvy Mama said...

What a huge but exciting change for your family! I have a great friend named Emily who runs ColoradoMoms.com and am happy to put you in touch with her if you'd like! She's an incredible individual and a wonderful community leader and know that her site will make the transition a little easier. Wishing you the best of luck and you will be missed in DC but please know we'll always consider you a DC Mom!

Dr. Blondie said...

Oh my goodness, this is huge news! Congratulations! How soon are you moving? I told Brad that I need to meet you in person before you go.:)

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