My friend Not Maud has responded to a meme from some other Irish bloggers regarding what people did before they became a Mum. I thought it sounded like fun to recall.
You all know what I did professionally, working in higher education. I also got a master's degree while Mr. Q. and I were house parents in a sorority house.
We traveled a lot. A whole lot, probably every other month. Mr. Q would have a business trip and if it was someplace I had never been, or if I wanted to go, or if it was held at a nice hotel, then I would go. We had developed a nice routine for traveling together.
We spent much more time than we do now visiting his family in Long Island and I would often go on my own to visit his/our niece and nephews in New Jersey.
I was much less organized then, for I didn't need to be. I had all the time in the world. I was a bit more conservative on the political spectrum, for I had not yet really met any people who struggled. Becoming a mother and teaching ESL has made me a more thoughtful person, I think.
I also wasn't as nice to Mr. Q as I am now. I hadn't yet figured out that taking a backseat to a decision or discussion wasn't the same as being subservient so I asserted myself at every.single.turn.
We worked on our house or on the yard all the damn time, it seemed like.
I also wondered, quite a lot, if I would ever feel ready to have a child. And then, when I was ready, I wondered if Mr. Q would ever come around.
I'm awfully glad he did.
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