Several of my "milk mom" friends are bloggers. One of our friends is also a dedicated reader and occasional commenter, and we asked her to come up with a list of writing prompts that the group could use and write about at similar times.
So, today, I am writing on one of those prompts which is to write about what I miss most from my life pre-motherhood.
Missing things from life pre-motherhood has nothing to do with how much I love my children. I can love them fiercely AND also miss things from my previous life. One does not preclude the other.
I miss laying on the couch after dinner and watching the News, or Jeopardy or the Simpsons. Are the Simpsons even on at 7pm anymore ? I also miss waking up on a Sunday morning, walking sleepily to the living room and watching CBS News Sunday Morning. I also miss getting a day off when I am sick. Now that I am back to working and have childcare it is technically easier to accomplish this, but as a part-time contractor I have to put in a lot of face time.
I miss the assumptions that didn't come my way when I wasn't a mother. When I became a mother, people assumed things about me. For example, my office leases space from a law firm and several people gather together for lunch on a regular basis. It is one of the things I enjoy most about my daytime job. On one occasion, we were talking about our favorite books as well as about books that have affected us. I turned to the young female attorney sitting next to me and said, "What about you, F ?" She responded, "Oh, you probably wouldn't like it. It's non-fiction."
I felt like I had been slapped, and then I got mad.
It turned out that I was familiar with the author of her book - I had read one of his first books FOR FUN in graduate school.
I miss the house staying tidy after I tidied it.
I miss being spoken to respectfully and kindly. My children sometimes speak rudely to me and it cuts me like a knife. Of course, I respond with the usual admonitions, but the cut still stings.
I can't think of anything else. I don't miss much, honestly.
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