Oh wait, I was JUST whining about that very same thing to my friend H. last week !
Mr. Q and I would sink on the couch at night in a tired stupor and watch those shows on HGTV and laugh at all the people who said they needed a house built for "entertaining." "WHO in the HELL has the time or energy to entertain" we would ask each other, while wondering if there was something wrong with us. No, nothing was wrong with us, we were just still figuring out how to do everything, that's all.
Now that I reflect on it, it has gotten a teensy bit easier now that I have a little girl and an almost big girl. The change came in stages. First I found that I was able to make dinner (not a complicated one, mind you, just an easy one). Then "the stuff" of babyhood started disappearing: bottles, bibs, burp cloths, plastic cups, etc. They were replaced, for sure, with other toys and stuff, but these girls I have now are quite capable of helping to tidy up because there is a place for every specific thing. Even the bi-weekly "big tidy up before the cleaning lady comes" doesn't take quite as long as it used to. The bottom line is that our family (and definitely Mr. Q and I) function better when the house is tidy, so we tidy up almost every day to keep it that way.
Now that I've been cooking for about 3 years, I've also become rather proficient at certain dishes. I have also developed the ability to roughly get all the food on the table at about the same time. Our tiny kitchen does present some challenges, but I've figured out how to manage.
With both of these developments, I wanted to try and start having people over for dinner or, heck, just to hang out more often. Since I guard our family time so viciously, we tend to be a little hermit like at times, and I thought these efforts would be a nice antidote to that tendency.
My first foray, a meeting for a group I'm involved with, went pretty well. There were about 10 people coming over at night for a meeting and refreshments afterwards. I served several things, including a veggie dip that I made from a mix, a warm chicken salad from scratch, a candy called "Alabama Turtles", and peanut butter cookies from a mix. I also served prosecco, of course ! I set the table with one of my vintage tablecloths (I collect them - post coming soon) and a mix of serving dishes that included contemporary pieces that were wedding presents, vintage thrift store finds, and my favorite, my grandmother's antique dessert plates. Mr. Q obviously helped me get ready (best husband ever) and I was so proud of myself. Thankyouverymuch.
In between the 2nd and 3rd forays, we hosted a playgroup for my mother's group, the Milk Moms. But I almost don't count that because they are wonderful friends and I didn't provide any snacks. It was BYOS (bring your own snacks). In fact, I think the house was tidier when they left because they all picked up !
My third and fourth forays are coming up. The third foray will be a dinner for my three friends from college who live in the area and I'll be cooking some of my tried and true (from scratch) dinner recipes. The fourth foray will be an open house for the TEN little girls and their moms who live on our street. We have a new neighbor who is 18 months and since we have this proliferation of little girls on our street, I thought it would be fun to get them together. The menu for the open house will be a repeat of the menu from the first.
Gosh, at this rate, Mr. Q and I might even go a bit crazy and start ENTER-TrAINING !
Question: Do you have people over regularly ? Is it easy for you ? Tell me about it !