A few months ago, I wrote a post about praising children. My friend Therese left this comment that has been some good brain fodder over the past few weeks: "IMO a girl likes to hear she's pretty every now and again."
I've been thinking about that a lot, and thinking about how I can help Beezus and Ramona to internally believe that they are pretty. For as much as I don't want it to matter to them, I think it will at some point, and I would rather have them believe that they are pretty than not.
So, I say it like this: "Beezus, you are so pretty and those hair clips look so nice in your hair." or "Ramona, you are so pretty and that dress makes you look fancy." I wanted to emphasize that it is they themselves who are pretty and the accessories are only an afterthought. I tend to only say it when they've chosen a fancy dress or carefully lined up 4-5 hairclips in their hair - I just don't think of it the other times.
I'm not sure if it is "right" or "wrong" but it sort of makes sense to me.
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