I've been thinking recently about how much I praise my children.
I do it A LOT. I hear myself praising them for the mundane (and un-necessary) things "Thank you for putting on your jacket;" the important things "Good job running to the potty to go poop. I'll bet you feel proud of yourself;" and the character building "It was the right thing to do to tell your sister that you were sorry for hitting her. Good job."
I definitely try to focus on the specific behaviors "thanks for keeping a good attitude even when the plan kept changing" as opposed to the general "you're a good girl."
I just think my children are so wonderful that it's often hard to avoid "You are a FABULOUS child !" when I am overcome by emotion because of their wonderful-ness !
Seriously - that almost came out of my mouth one day, because I do think they are so fabulous and I want them to know how much I love them. But loving a child isn't cause for praise - just as children should not be praised (often) for things which they have no control over, such as appearance.
When I feel this outpouring of love, I should say "I love you" instead of "You're such a good girl." One of my favorite things to tell them is "I am so glad that God chose me to be your mommy."
What do you think about praise and children ? Do you try to avoid it or do you make a conscious decision to do it more ?
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