Decisions between principle and practicality are tough.
Beezus wants a Barbie for Christmas. She REALLY wants a Barbie for Christmas.
I do not want her to have a Barbie. Mr. Q falls somewhere in the middle – I think he thinks we should get her one since she really, really wants it.
I’ve told her that Santa Claus really thinks that girls need to be 6 to have a Barbie. In response, she named a couple other girls who are 5 who have Barbies. I told her that Santa, like God, knows what is in your head and in your heart, and Santa knows that in our family, children don’t get Barbies until they are 6. She responded, “You just never know with Santa Claus, Mommy. You never know.”
I have myriad reasons for not wanting her to have a Barbie.
1. She is only 5. If she receives a Barbie now, then it will be even sooner when she wants the next best thing.
2. If she gets Barbie now, I worry that she will stop playing with her baby dolls. I already have a good chunk of money invested in those baby dolls. We have all the things to enable her pretend play with the baby dolls (crib, high chair, clothes, etc.) I worry that one Barbie will just lead to more Barbies.
3. Barbie has a lot of little pieces. These little pieces will get lost and then it will become my problem when there is a meltdown occurring over a lost shoe.
4. What exactly does Barbie DO ? The girls can play with their dolls for long periods of time. I’m not sure that Beezus’ imagination is mature enough to play with Barbie and change her clothes – which is what I’m pretty sure she will want to do.
5. More importantly, if Beezus plays with Barbie, then Ramona will want Barbie and Ramona is only 3. I don’t want my 3 year old playing with Barbie for all the reasons above and then some.
6. MOST importantly, Barbie has a weird, abnormal shaped body. I just don’t want my little girls exposed to that.
What am I to do ? When Beezus was at my parent’s house, she loved playing with my sister’s childhood Barbies and Jem dolls.
Ramona’s “big” Christmas gift is her first Bitty Baby doll and they are each getting some accessories for their Bitty Baby dolls.
They are getting a few other small things and as a “together” gift they will receive several pieces of the Disney Princess “Favorite Moments” collection (size and concept of Polly Pockets) that I picked up at the co-op sale, including a small castle.
As a replacement for Beezus’ desired Barbie, I could get her a princess doll that kind of looks like a Barbie and the movie to go along with it. She’s never seen a movie, so perhaps the Tiana doll and The Prince and the Frog might be a big enough deal to curb any disappointment over not having a Barbie.
So, I need your advice. Yes, I know that Beezus will turn out fine if we give her a Barbie or if we don’t. Your children may have Barbie and they are likely doing just fine. But with my reasons above and our desire to try and live a relatively simple life, what are your thoughts on the matter ?
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