Wednesday, August 4, 2010


Selma is the beagle in the front.

Our dog Selma is sick. Very, very sick. In significant pain when she pees, or when she tries to go pee. We've had tests and blood work and an x-ray and talked and talked with each other and the vet. Mr. Quimby has done some research on the Internet.

We have made our decision, we feel confident that it is the right one for Selma, and it will happen within a week or two, but I'm not quite ready to write the words yet. Mr. Quimby and I are okay, but sad. We've given Selma (a rescue dog) a good, good life and that gives us comfort. Even when the girls were infants and we had no time or patience for her, she was still well cared for with regular walks, a bed upstairs in our room and downstairs in the living room, and a healthy diet.

We've been preparing the girls. I have they "story" ready that I will start telling them soon "once upon a time there were two little girls who had two dogs and one of the dogs got old and sick." I've been going through my photos finding all the ones of Selma and putting them in a special folder. For now, they know that Selma is very, very old and very, very sick and that the vet cannot fix her. Ramona hopefully asked "A shot ? The vet can give her a shot?" But no, a shot cannot fix her. There are some pills that could help her live another few months, but with significant side effects and that is not the quality of life we want for Selma.

I'm very worried about our other dog Rudy.

And I'm sad.

*Edited on Friday morning to add:

Selma has gotten even worse in the past two days and will "cross over the rainbow bridge" on Monday morning.


V said...

Poor Selma! I know she knows how beloved she is. I think you are making the right choice.

I love the book "Dog Heaven" by Cynthia Rylant, btw. It might be a good book to read with Beezus.

I hope Rudy will be OK.

Herself said...

I'm so, so sorry.

{sue} said...

Ugh. I'm sorry. I've also heard really good things about The Legend of Rainbow Bridge by William Britton for helping kids through the loss of a pet.

Helen said...

I'm so sorry Ellen. Sounds very upsetting.

Stacy said...

I'm so sorry :( We've recently re-homed one of our dogs and it's been so hard to explain to the kids.

I have heard great things about the rainbow bridge story and wonder if it might help you.

I'll be thinking you of you and the other Quimbys...


Marya said...

I am so sorry for all of you. Please know we are thinking of you and hope that Selma's memory will always be a source of warmth and blessing.

Laurie said...

Oh, so, so sad Ellen. I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm sorry you have to say goodbye to a much-loved part of your family, and I'm sorry that you've had to make these decisions which are tough.

We got a lot of peace from the rainbow bridge story with the girls when Chloe died. It still makes me tear up to think about it, but it helped. If you want to talk about how we managed with them, let me know.

Rachel et Natalie said...

I thought about you this morning. It is so hard to have to say good bye.

Mike said...

OMG Ellen. You know how I feel about dogs. I'm not a big dog enthusiast. But wow. I took a few minutes to think about how hard that would be for a child to understand. We've been thinking about how/when to teach our son about death. He asked me to "kill an ant." And I didn't really know how to explain what happens to the ant. I couldn't even imagine having to explain death about a dog that's been with them for their entire life. Wow. Good luck. Kids are so resilient. I'm sure they will be fine...and maybe it's a "good lesson" that they will remember. Wow.

Stimey said...

I wasn't reading posts for a long time, but just came upon this in my reader. I am so, so sorry. I hope it went as well as it could. Hugs to you.

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