They've all turned against me.
When Esther was 16 months old (and I was 3 months pregnant) she made a drastic switch to Daddy's girl. When David was around, I was no longer permitted to feed her, change her diaper, hand her anything, or GOD FORBID touch or hug her. It has continued pretty much that way to this day, although I am permitted to wipe her butt. When David's not around, she's fine with me. When he is present, she actually ignores me. If I go into her room in the morning after she wakes up, I am greeted with "Not you!"
Ruthie has now joined her. Although Ruthie only prefers David about 75% of the time and I am still allowed to prepare her food and hand her toys.
Intellectually, I'm fine with this. I like it that they want him, that they know him well enough to allow him to care for them. It cements for me that we did the right thing by having David take a risk in his career track and take significant time off after they were born.
Emotionally, it's a little hard for me when Esther ignores me or says "Go away Mommy" or "Stop talking to me." I tell her to say please and then I abide by her wishes. While I feel sad (sometimes) that she doesn't want me, I am comforted by her fondness for David.
Logistically, it's a pain in the ASS when NOBODY wants me to help them with their coats, lift them into their carseats, or when they both want David to hold them at the exact same time!
This morning David was changing Ruthie's diaper and Esther needed to get dressed but she also needs help getting her pajama top off. She was really having a hard time with it but responded to be offer of assistance by running away from me. We were really rushing (as usual) to get out the door. Yelling ensued and in a streak of such extreme stubborness that I rarely see in her, Esther proceeded to take her pajama top off by herself by wiggling out of it and pulling the neck of her shirt down over her torso.
She showed me - there wasn't much I could do but just stare at her with my mouth hanging open!
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