Thursday, November 6, 2008

Stark Raving Lunatic

Esther is, at times, a stark raving lunatic. One of those times is now. For the past 40 minutes, she has been whining, screaming, crying, or a combination of all 3. There is nothing wrong with her. She is not hungry, not sick, just a little bit tired. David and I keep switching off because each of us can only stand about 4 minutes with her before we can barely hold back yelling at her or smacking her into the middle of next week. We've tried holding her and whispering in her ear, sitting quietly in her room to let her know we are "available" to her, telling her that we are leaving her room until she calms down, and then we leave, she calms down enough for us to go back in and then she starts up again. She's been going on for about 40 minutes and it's now 30 minutes past her bedtime.

Tell me, what do you do when your child is a stark raving lunatic? And don't give me any of this crap about how you just go take a time out and then you go back in and then you and the kid sing Kum-bye-yah together. I want real answers people, real answers.

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Update 4 minutes later after I finished the post:
She's all calm now, and tells me she loves me very much. I'm glad she's calm now but it's kind of even more frustrating because it ends so abruptly. Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.

8 comments:

The Lowe said...

I want to hear the suggestions on this one too.

Laurie said...

Zoe does this. It makes me so mad. I have to keep taking breaks too. I tell her to have a seat somewhere quiet and she can rejoin us when she's ready to act like a human being. Ok, I say something more like, when she's ready to sit at the table, play nicely, etc. But inside, I feel like smacking her.

Stimey said...

You're so not alone. I don't have any answers. We can usually talk Quinn down. But that's not to say we don't want to murder all three of our children at times.

Fiona said...

Wow - I guess all kids go through something huh! We can often talk Kara down within minutes (somewhat like Laurie in that we tell her when she is ready to be polite, etc). It has ALWAYS worked EXCEPT for this Tuesday night - OMG!

Lance started something else which has worked really well - if Kara ignores us, he tells her that we are going to ignore her and how would she feel about this (please don't ignore me daddy, I don't like this daddy); or if she takes something off Sophie we tell her that we will take something off her and how would she then feel (I don't want you to do that daddy). It actually seems to work for Kara.

Marya said...

I can't wait to talk about this at MNO! GREAT topic!

Elaine said...

Wow, Ellen. I have no idea what your talking about!

OK - I couldn't even type that with a straight face.

Thrift Store Mama said...

I swear Elaine, if somebody had commented something like "Wish I could help, but my child doesn't have tantrums" I would find them and throttle them. Except I think I may have given a similar answer once to one of the Milk Moms. That was 18 months ago, long before this lunacy started.

Rachel et Natalie said...

Yossi is better than I am when it comes to that. He goes back to her, talks to her for 2 min and leaves her. She usually calms down after 5 min and falls asleep but I have a hard time to listen to it. and of course as they share the same bedroom, she wakes up her sister - we have great concerts at home!
glad she calme down...

 
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